But a man’s attractiveness to women is the opposite, increasing over time and reaching a peak at 50, only then decreasing. There seems to be no clearly agreed upon reason why this is the case. How many of us can relate to being dumped by a guy who said he wasn’t ready, only to find out that he proposed to someone else? If I met someone and we had strong chemistry, it wouldn’t be a factor unless it was a cornerstone of his personality and existence.

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No one, including the two of us, gave any thought to the age difference, because it was never evident. I don’t think so, but that’s your decision to make. What people might think of you as a couple is just one of many factors that go into deciding whether to pursue a specific relationship. It’s not wrong to consider it, either, but talking about it in this particular way reinforces a lot of gross sexist norms so I suggest not bringing it up like this around other people or around this woman.

If your parents are willing to meet him, you can introduce them so they can see for themselves what he’s like. If you are financially independent, you really don’t need their approval . If they still support you, you need to respect whatever rules they might have. You’re old enough that hopefully you’ll be on your own soon and you can do whatever you want. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog.

You are incredibly intelligent, well-spoken and mature for a person of your age, and I think this has strongly contributed to the success of your relationship. That just goes to show you that it’s really about the two people in that relationship, more than anything else. Lastly, you say that he “takes good care” of you. I may be reading to into this, but I hope that he doesn’t treat you like a well-kept pet. I firmly believe that one of the reason my boyfriend and I have been successful so far is because we’ve always approached our relationship as equals.

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He knows who he is, and who he doesn’t want to be. And any woman that steps in and starts trying to make him „perfect“ is in for a rude awakening. I’d also suggest that trying to change him is even more of a waste of time on a guy in his 40s or later.

I’m probably a bit too jaded about age-gap relationships ever since my little sister was impregnated by and almost got an STD from a sleazy old douchebag nearly our father’s age when she was 19. At the time I was desperately trying to open her eyes to his real nature , but it wasn’t until he got her pregnant against her desires that she really saw him for what he was. I was 18 when I married my 1st husband (we’d been together since I was 16).

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Like I said, your dating standards will be higher. You have a good idea what your idea of Mr. Right will look like. Meaning you’re not going to waste your time on guys who don’t fit the bill.

Because those cologne-wearing, Dolce-upgraded, French-press-drinking, 30-something hunks are a whole different animal. Throughout my entire love life — or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others — I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. (With the exception of my first Asian… IT WAS MY FIRST ASIAN!) And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it . Men have long been silent and stoic about their inner lives, but there’s every reason for them to open up emotionally—and their partners are helping. There are at least a couple still alive — most notably Princeton, which is just the fourth No. 15 seed in history to reach the Sweet Sixteen of the NCAA Tournament.

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I just fail to see the logic in how you relate the movie to her current relationship. If she watches the movie, it should be because it’s a good movie (and it’s entirely unnecessary that she watch it alone), not because it somehow applies to her more than it does anyone else. “Taking care” of you can be good, but it can also make it harder for you to leave him if you become too dependent on him . FWIW, my college roommate is happily married to a man 20 years older than her, and my best friend’s mom is about 18 years younger than her dad. Of course for me it was different, I lived at home so eventually they’d figure out I was seeing someone.

She just might love getting involved with a person who’s on equally-solid ground . Back in the day, The Guy Who Peaked Too Early had everything a 17-year-old girl could ever dream of. His sky-high confidence carried him smoothly through college, and Amourfeel no one was surprised when he landed a smart, sweet, beautiful girlfriend in his early 20s. But The Guy Who Peaked Too Early was just getting started. There was a field that needed to be played, and he broke up with his girlfriend when he was 24.

If you love each other, age doesn’t matter, but it is a good guideline when you are thinking about a future together, or if you care at all what society thinks. For example, when someone was considering marriage, the age mattered more than if someone was considering a one-night stand with a partner. That’s a huge range, and you can imagine the mental states and life experiences of someone who is 22 is drastically different than someone who is 46.

Once this woman gets to be the guy’s age, no one would want her, so she ought to grab this guy now while she still can. Wendy is right in that you cannot get defensive or offended by anything. You have to present him as a person you care deeply about, like your parents care about you.